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Mar 23, 2005


Jay Sennett

Hi Evelyn,

I'm curious about your thoughts regarding creatively dwelving for those people who live on the edge all the time. Check out my blog ( or my website (

As a transsexual man, authenticity can be a very hard sell for people whose own fear clouds their better selves.

As a technological innovator (the medical modalities I have used to become who I am are a consequence of science and technology!) and edge creator, I must always remind myself about what is mine and what is others.

You phrased it, "being in tune with others beings with being in sync with yourself." True. Challenging when being in tune means receiving much fearful noise.

Thank you for your blogs.


Although it's good to know the market for your book before you start, sometimes, that knowledge only holds you back.

Writing a book is a long journey. Often, a lonely one. Always better to undertake if we believe in it, if the story keeps us awake at night, raring to burst out. Like Don Juan (from Castenada's books) said: follow the path which has heart.

Let your heart dictate the book you'll write, not the market.

Evelyn Rodriguez

Jay - I think I know what you mean. But dwelving can be an inner process of pushing OUR limits (not necessarily other people's buttons!). Sometimes you reach a fork in the road and the way forward is unclear. At these crossroads, we need to retreat into the small still center of our being and allow ourselves to be guided.

On the external front, I've found it useful rather than worry about what frightens, threatens others about our authenticity is to turn it around (since we can't control others nor live THEIR lives). Since we are most like to “project” onto others aspects of ourselves that are long buried (psychologists call this our shadow), the absolute best practice that’s helped me the most was developing the ability to watch my thoughts and feelings much as a meteorologist watches the changing weather patterns go by – without judgment. That includes the particular tricky practice of observing your judgment – of yourself and others - without judgment. (We can never practice enough radical self-acceptance.) Simply note how other people push your “buttons” and your strong likes (guru and goddess-worship, pedestal-plopping, admiration, adulation, awe) and dislikes (annoyance, contempt, disgust, dismissal). Notice comparisons you make between yourself and others. Notice any feelings of expectations and needs you have of others and strong attachments to outcome dependent on them. So every person I encounter becomes a mirror showing me my own blind spots (the shadow lurking below) and thus my teacher. The goal of this practice is that you may be a clear and spotless mirror so your true self shines forth.

Evelyn Rodriguez

Kamal - I wrote this piece last year and dressed it up for the essay submission. Something I need to re-read often. I think if one follows their heart (and businesses their collective heart) it often leads down a path that resonates univerally. The authentically inspired is compelling - much more so than the maybe-this-is-what-"they"-want contortions and scripts of a chameleon.

"Don't tell me what I want to hear," I tell my friends, "tell me your truth."

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